Perfectionist Derailed

today has taught me how to let go of things, of people, of memories,of pains...........and although i may struggle to achieve this process all in a day.......i have begun. I am trying to 'let go ' of being or striving for perfectionism........it is at the root of controlling behaviour and a key to my unhappiness, weight battle, loneliness....and much more.
you see an example of this is I would love more visitors/friends.........but i don't ask them over as my house may not be perfect enough! i self-sabotage....sometimes i try too hard- not to try to out do someone else but to try to live up to my own unrealistic expectations. These traits are 'learned' from one generation to the next- i want to re write the script.........i want friends to love me as i am even if i am in a mess.

Wouldn't have it any other way!!!

Today is a rather usual day in paradise.........we began the day however with scripture time as a family...and it was wonderful. i discovered a website with lds scriptures animated,read and pondering questions...i will try to get a link on this blog to it as a favorites button. scriptures4kids.com



Anyhow, ready to face the day after that.........kids sniffling, lessons waiting, dogs barking,crock pot loaded, washing drying, then it's raining,hubby driving (i worry about road safety),folding to be done,must find where they have taken my mop.........the floor is crying "mop me-today please",phone rings,mail to fetch and send,goal to keep unpacking the sewing room,home-storage to rotate,bin needs emptying,put couch covers back on cusions,mark boys assignments to post,and the doctor says REST hahahaha



Of course i will - I wouldn't have it any other way!

A Credo -For my relationships with others

You and I are in a relationship which I value and want to keep. Yet each of
us is a seperate person with unique needs and the right to meet those
needs.
When you are having problems meeting your needs I will listen with genuine
acceptance so as to facilitate your finding your own solutions instead of
depending on mine. I also will respect your right to choose your own beliefs and
develop your own values, different though they may be from mine.
However, when your behaviour interferes with what I must do to get my own
needs met, I will tell you openly and honestly how your behaviour affects me,
trusting that you respect my needs and feelings enough to try to change the
bahaviour that is unacceptable to me. Also,whenever some behaviour of mine is
unacceptable to you, I hope you will tell me openly and honestly so I can change
my behaviour.
At those times when one of us cannot change to meet the other's needs,let us
acknowledge that we have a conflict and commit ourselves to resolve each such
conflict without either of us resorting to the use of power to win at the
expense of the other's losing.I respect your needs,but I also must respect my
own. So let us always strive to search for a solution that will be acceptable to
both of us. Your needs will be met, and so will mine - neither will lose, both
will win.
In this way, you can continue to develop as a person through satisfying your
needs, and so can I. Thus, ours can be a healthy relationship in which both of
us can strive to become what we are capable of being. And we can continue to
relate to each other with mutual respect, love and peace.

by Thomas Gordon,PH.D.
Founder & Effectiveness Training,Inc.

HOMESCHOOLING - One of the best decisions ever!

2010 began with a jolt like no other....we began to home-school our family, through 'distance education' along with over 3000 Australian families!!!I believe we are growing together more as a family by being 'with' our kids as they face learning and lifes challenges.What's more we now have more family time....HOORAY FOR HOMESCHOOLING!!!

Family is..... a work of HEART!!!

Somedays my life is like a base thread in a good stitchery, it weaves and winds it's way amidst family life...I think that gradually I have come to realize the true purpose in my life....

FAMILY CAN BE......

FOREVER!